Just because you haven’t “clicked” with your team yet, doesn’t mean it can’t happen still. There are ways to figure out what makes the people around you tick, and see how that links you both. With some thoughtfulness and strategy, you can build relationships with your coworkers:
1. Be an Active Listener
Part of what breaks down relationships between coworkers is a lack of understanding about the other person. Why is this? A huge reason is that no one is really listening – we hear others just fine. But there is a huge difference between hearing and listening. When you practice active listening, you’re listening to understand, not to respond. A way to convey this to the other person is by asking intelligent questions about what they said, to clarify what they’re communicating. You want your coworkers to really know you, right? Well, start by trying to really learn who they are. Listen to what they’re saying, and pay attention to the subtle inferences. You can learn a lot about a person by what they’re not saying.
2. Know the Facts
What’s their name? If you can’t get this basic information down, you’re in major trouble. Know their name, remember information about their family, be aware of what is important to them in their lives. You may have too many people at work to go in-depth with all of them, which may not be a wise move regardless. At least know their names and then find out something of significance about each of them. When someone has the thoughtfulness to ask about something that’s important in your life, it makes you feel like they see you as important. Create this bonding feeling in others.
3. Be Willing to Share
No, this isn’t about being willing to lend your stapler to the guy two cubicles over, though that would be nice. This is more about participating in another’s life. Did someone you’ve spent some time talking with get promoted or scored that big contract? Share in their excitement. Congratulate them. Don’t even allow jealousy or envy to brew. Also, the reverse. Maybe they’ve suffered a family setback, and they share that with you. You may have no idea how they’re feeling, but be willing to express a response.
4. Look for the Best
Probably everyone can think of that one person at the office who rubs them the wrong way. Rather than dwell on his or her annoying traits, do your best to discover something positive about that person. Maybe they’re good collaborators or are willing to do the jobs that others aren’t. You can always find the bright side, and changing your attitude about them will help you out a lot when interacting with them. Who knows, maybe there are those at work who you unwittingly annoy. You’d certainly want them to recognize the good qualities you have, rather than only focus on that one thing.
5. Be Patient
You’re not going to walk into the office tomorrow and find everyone eager to shake your hand and share about their lives. In fact, that would probably be a little weird. The key to building relationships, for the first time or continuously, is time and effort.
The office isn’t your social playground, but it doesn’t have to be a cold, unfriendly, lonely place either. If you’re willing to take that first step and start working on developing relationships, others will be much more interested in meeting you halfway. Who knows, maybe you’ll even find your next good friend at work.
6. Show Appreciation
One of the easiest ways to foster good relationships is to regularly show appreciation. Whether it’s complimenting someone on their work, acknowledging their efforts in a meeting, or simply saying “thank you” for their help, showing appreciation can go a long way. A culture of gratitude creates a positive atmosphere and makes others feel valued. It also encourages mutual respect and fosters stronger connections.
7. Be Reliable
Trust is a cornerstone of any good relationship, and at work, that trust often starts with reliability. If you commit to a task or agree to help with a project, make sure you follow through. Being dependable shows your coworkers that they can count on you, which strengthens professional bonds. When others know you’re a person of your word, they’re more likely to engage with you and rely on you when teamwork is required.
8. Communicate Clearly
Clear and open communication is essential for building strong workplace relationships. Misunderstandings or poor communication can lead to frustration and conflict. Make sure you articulate your thoughts, tasks, and expectations clearly. Ask clarifying questions if you’re unsure of something and encourage others to do the same. Good communication helps to avoid confusion, ensures everyone is on the same page, and fosters a smoother workflow.
9. Offer Help When Needed
Workplaces thrive on teamwork, and offering to lend a hand when someone needs it can build goodwill and strong relationships. If you notice a coworker struggling with a project or running behind on a deadline, offer your assistance. Even if they don’t accept, the gesture shows that you’re a team player who values collaboration. Helping others builds trust and strengthens relationships.
10. Respect Boundaries
While it’s important to build connections, it’s equally important to respect boundaries. Some people may prefer to keep their personal lives separate from work, while others are more open to sharing. Be mindful of the boundaries your coworkers set, and avoid prying into their personal affairs unless they invite you to. Respecting their preferences shows emotional intelligence and helps maintain a respectful, professional atmosphere.
11. Be Positive and Optimistic
Positivity is contagious. By maintaining an optimistic attitude, even during challenging times, you can uplift the morale of those around you. People generally enjoy working with positive, solution-oriented colleagues. When you bring a can-do attitude to the office, you’re likely to attract others who appreciate your optimism and energy. This fosters better teamwork and encourages stronger connections.
12. Engage in Small Talk
While you don’t want to distract coworkers with lengthy conversations, engaging in small talk during breaks or downtime can help you get to know them better. Asking about their weekend plans, hobbies, or interests outside of work shows that you’re interested in them as a person, not just as a colleague. Casual conversations can lead to deeper connections and make your workplace feel more comfortable and friendly.
13. Stay Humble
Humility is key when building strong relationships at work. If you experience success or accolades, it’s great to celebrate, but avoid coming across as arrogant or boastful. Being humble in your achievements allows others to feel comfortable around you and encourages a sense of equality. Acknowledging the contributions of others and sharing credit will go a long way in fostering good working relationships.
14. Resolve Conflicts Professionally
Disagreements or misunderstandings are inevitable in any workplace, but how you handle them can make or break relationships. When conflicts arise, address them professionally and calmly. Don’t let frustration or emotions get the best of you. Approach the person directly, listen to their side, and work toward a resolution that benefits both parties. By resolving conflicts constructively, you can turn a potentially negative experience into an opportunity to strengthen relationships.
By incorporating these additional tips, you’ll be well on your way to building strong, positive relationships with your coworkers, making your workplace more enjoyable and productive for everyone.
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